Regardless of how you decide to distribute them, tips should be placed in an envelope that has been labeled and sealed, paired with a thank you note. You’ll be busy be the day of the wedding so place your wedding planner or someone trustworthy in charge of distributing the tips.
What To Give
How you choose to tip creative partners is entirely up to you. Take time to decide what works best for you as a couple and for your budget. Sending your photographer a bottle of champagne a few days before the wedding in lieu of a cash gift is appropriate and thoughtful. Also keep in mind that handwritten notes and writing online reviews are invaluable; there’s nothing like the words of a happy client that will serve as feedback and a testimonial to their excellence.
When to Tip
When you choose to tip creative partners is at your discretion. Here are a few different options and the reasons behind each.
Before: Doing so serves as motivation to go the extra mile and do the best job possible.
After: Brides who choose to tip after are looking at how well services were performed. As a general rule of thumb, it’s recommended to tip entertainment and hair and makeup artists after services are performed. Donations to churches or synagogues are also made after the service.
Where To Divide
One way of distributing gratuities is to decide on a lump sum that you can afford and divide the percentage. Another way is to get a comprehensive list of everyone working your wedding and divide portions based on performance. In this case, the lead bartender and maître d would receive larger percentages.
Why Is It Important?
Unless they’ve been a complete nightmare throughout the planning of your wedding, it’s courteous to present each of your vendors with a gift. Another aspect to consider is the relationship you’ve developed with the vendor. If you have become very close with your photographer and had an amazing experience, you’ll want them to remember you. The wedding may be once in a lifetime, but a good photographer is always in demand.